Marriage to me is more than just a relationship it’s more of a lifetime decision…
All of us are expected to be in a marriage since we were born into this world… Some even, our parents started planning this event from the moment we learned how to walk, at least I know mine are…
It’s an important moment of our lives the day we walked down the aisle and to promise our commitment to that special person. Me, being the way I am… Many asked why, until these days I continue to not be in a committed relationship to someone…. It’s simply an answer that … I haven’t found the right person, and the one who will see me as nothing more and nothing less, than who I really am, and who would be suit to be a best mate for the rest of my life… my Aunt once told me that when it comes to love, and marriage, we have to used 50% of our mind and 50% of our heart… so with many relationship I’d had I’ve only used all my heart… and until this day I still haven’t found him.
I think for myself that even if I am 26 years old, I don’t necessary expected to be married… I mean, yeah there said things that "I’m getting older", but I think mostly I haven’t really found that someone that I’m willing to spend the rest of my life with… and not to be bias about the relationships I’ve had in the past, it’s just many haven’t really made an impact for me to jump into marriage… I had a four year relationship with an individual, yet I couldn’t see myself marrying him… So why did I stick around in that relationship???…. Simply to learn more about decisions, choices, and relationship it self… Funny, many of my family as well as friends thought for a while, that we were married… NO!!! I chose not to be, at least not with him.
I love the marriage rules in the Philippines, even though many don’t follow it… Back in the Philippines, once you choose to be married with someone, no matter what happened throughout the years, YOU HAVE TO STICK TO THE MARRIAGE… No divorce, no time off… you choose to be with that person when you married them… you’ll be with them for the rest of your life…. It’s supposed to be like that, to all marriage, but here in the states, you’re free to divorced who you promised "Until death do us part", you gave your word that you promised to stick with that person until death do you apart, in front of your family, your friends, and mostly to God… Yet a year or so later, you’re filling for a divorce??? What happened to the promised you made??? Yes freedom of choice, I agree with that… But come on, when you bound yourself to love someone, and take them to marriage, at least get to know who you’re willing to spend the rest of your time is… and not just jumped to the gun of marriage… A friend of mine told me before "Marrying someone is like buying a car, you have to test drive it first to buy it."… That has stucked on me forever… and I’ve decided to keep that rule…
If I take forever to find that someone… Then forever it will be… I’m not going to settle myself for someone, who will only love me now… I’m worth more than just now… I refused to commit myself for a lifetime to someone, if I do not mean it.
And if it happens that I find someone through internet to love them enough that would lead me to marrying them, so be it.… It’s my choice and no one else… so don’t prejudge something because it seems to be unnatural to your eyes… I’m not in a hurry…. If someone is meant to be mine, we will find each other one way or the other…
Marriage is a lifetime… not a year. As long as God is on my side, I will never be alone.
